The Truth

When you question someone's honesty and their response is 'I don't have to prove anything to you', you can pretty much guarantee that's because they can't substantiate their claims. The following list is not exhaustive:

1. I own a property development company...working on projects (worth between £5ooK and £1 million) all over the UK I sell houses (average value £350K) within a 5 mile radius of my office.
2. I live in a detached house A terraced house
3. I'm not married I got married 2 years ago
4. I live in Harrow Bushey
5. I don't have kids I have a young daughter who is my world
6. My dad's a git he lent me £70k to keep my business afloat
7. My brother's useless he runs a successful business, is happily married and still makes time for friends
8. A pal and I own an apartment in Spain it actually belongs to my in-laws
9. I love you I want you to say it back to me to boost my ego, 'cause my wife rarely does
10. I don't go in for all that religion shit but I'll still have my son circumsized

Some of the above statements were clearly based on opinion, therefore cannot be classed as lies as such. The others however, show how addictive lying can be. Once lie #3 had been told, #1, #4, #5 ,#8 and #9 were inevitable. As well as keeping his identity hidden, they served to hide a certain amount of hypocrisy:

"you shouldn't be chatting to me, you are a married lady....you made vows"

Sure, I vowed that I would love and honour and respect my husband and I'd spent 10 years doing just that, but here was a man, recently married, telling me how I should conduct myself within my marriage. A man who denied the existence of his own spouse in order to justify his unsavoury internet activity. A man so dissatisfied with his lot that he felt the need to big himself up.

Perhaps I was wrong to have embarked on a relationship with him, although I don't remember vowing not to talk to another man after my wedding day. I'd always had male friends and had no intention of relinquishing them, just because I had a 'Mrs' before my name.

My husband knew about 'Lee' because I told him. I didn't tell him everything of course, which is probably just as well given that I did eventually untangle my friend's web of lies. I doubt Mr S would have reacted very favourably to Lee's confessions of what he'd like to do with me. Nor would he have taken to kindly to his suggestion of 'hiring a hit man', so he could have me all to himself.

I guess my being economical with the truth makes me just as guilty as Lee. The difference is, I did it to protect him and my husband's feelings, he lied purely to protect himself.